Scrolling, eating, avoiding, numbing — you do them to feel better, but they quietly make things worse. Here's the psychology behind why your coping strategies backfire, and how to break the cycle.

Nobody told you that you were broken. They said something subtler. Something that sounded almost reasonable. “You are OK... if.” If you get good grades. If you stop crying. If you make everyone happy. If you work hard enough. If you get a degree, a job, a partner, a house, and a kid(seriously?). That tiny two-letter word “ if “ is where most of our adult suffering begins. In my coaching training, I came across a concept that changed how I understand almost every person I've

“You are not in control of your mind — because you, as a conscious agent, are only part of your mind, living at the mercy of other parts.” ― Sam Harris The average person has between 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts (double it if you’re like me) a day of those 80% are negative and 95% are the same repetitive thoughts you had the day before. In another interesting study, it was found that 85% of what we worry about never even happens, and 15% of the things that do end up happening,

You’re sitting in a room full of people. Someone cracks a joke. You don’t find it funny. You laugh anyway. Someone asks your opinion. You have one. You say theirs back to them. Someone asks how you’re doing. You say “I’m good!” with a smile so convincing even you believe it for a second. You can DM me, I’ll be there for you. Not kidding. You get home. You crash. And you’re not tired because you did too much. You’re tired because you spent the entire day being someone you’re n

It’s 2 AM. Your body is begging for sleep, but your brain has other plans. It’s replaying that awkward thing you said at lunch three days ago. It’s rehearsing tomorrow’s meeting for the seventh time. It’s reminding you of everything that is not going according to your plan. Fun. I know this feeling intimately. Not because I read about it in some psychology textbook, but because I lived in it. Every single night. For years. My first real bout of anxiety showed up in 2020, unin